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How to get back your Ex lover permanently-bold steps
“While in a relationship, we develop physiological attachment to our partners that makes us want to be attached,” explains behavioral scientist and clinician Clarissa Silva. “Often that neurological desire is not really related to wanting to be with your ex, it’s the desire to feel attachment and love.”
Your ex might be coming back because they are having trouble adjusting to the single life, rather than missing you in particular.
“If all he can say is ‘I’ve just really missed you’ without describing exactly what he misses, then chances are he’s still just reeling from the loss and just wants you back to get rid of that pain,” explains relationship expert Mark Stefanishyn.
Late night texts and Instagram likes are a far cry from “I’ve gone to a therapist and I’m different now.”
So if your ex isn’t being clear on exactly what has changed and why they want you back, chances are they’re just feeling lonely. You might recommend they download Tinder or adopt a puppy instead.
How to get back your Ex lover permanently-bold steps
2. They Need Confirmation Of Their Self Worth
Exes come back for a multitude of reasons, but more often than not, they are looking for some confirmation that they are a human being worthy of love. In a society that values relationships, being single isn’t the most chic and thus, can make people uncomfortable.
if your ex isn’t being clear on exactly what has changed and why they want you back, chances are they’re just feeling lonely. You might recommend they download Tinder or adopt a puppy instead.
2. They Need Confirmation Of Their Self Worth
Exes come back for a multitude of reasons, but more often than not, they are looking for some confirmation that they are a human being worthy of love. In a society that values relationships, being single isn’t the most chic and thus, can make people uncomfortable.
“If someone associates being single with being undesirable, unwanted, or broken, then the end of a relationship can feel so terrifying that they’ll say anything to get away from those fears, even things like ‘I’ve realized I do love you and I’ve changed,'” explains Stefanishyn.
If your ex is spiraling about their value as a person, be careful to take their words at face value, too.
Additionally, your ex might be back because “their identity was so involved with being with you, and they feel they don’t have one without you,” explains dating expert Thomas Edwards. “That may sound great on paper, but puts a lot of pressure on you to validate their confidence, self-worth, and overall identity.”
Remember that you are not a personal self-help book; you are a person with feelings, too.
